Navigating a new space can be tricky especially for a new member.

I remember when I first came on to the gaming/streaming scene. I followed so many Black and POC players right off the bat that I felt like I was swimming in melanin gold. If there was an issue I made sure to re-tweet and show my support. I made it clear that BlerdMom was down for the cause, whatever it might be. I didn’t want anyone to think that I was a black woman in this space who didn’t care about the issues facing our community in gaming and was only active when it benefited me.
Unfortunately this back fired…
I saw a tweet supporting two women who were being attacked by people who didn’t understand the meaning of impact over numbers. I re-tweeted in support, followed both women and left it at that.
A few weeks later I had a chance to watch one of them stream. And to be honest, I didn’t like the vibe. I figured that maybe I caught them on a bad day and would try again another time. Mind you, I sat in the channel for about an hour or so before coming to that conclusion.
I think I tried once more and the stream I caught… let’s just say her and whoever she was playing with’s conversation and banter did not sit well with me. I realized that this streamer is not for me and that’s okay. Every streamer isn’t for everybody! I decided I wasn’t going to unfollow them or block them nor was I going to be up in their streams anymore.
A few months later Mixer shut down, which really sucked, some creators went to FB gaming, others went to Twitch. I wouldn’t call Twitch a home but I will say there are some amazing creators there.
FAST FORWARD

All of a sudden I see Black/POC Streaming Twitter rumble about a creator being so back handed and problematic that it has caused serious damage to a lot of people, some that I was really cool with. When I saw it was the same streamer that gave me bad vibes I was glad I trusted my instincts but disappointed that I showed them support.
I read a lot of Twittlonger documents and came to the conclusion that the old saying still rings true “All skin folk ain’t kin folk”
I wasn’t following them on any streaming platform anymore so there was nothing for me to do there and I blocked them from my Twitter. The stuff I read was THAT egregious!
Looking back I realize me blind supporting creators would be an issue. I find myself apprehensive when I see a tweet encouraging support for any content creator that I have not thoroughly been accustomed too.
I only re-tweet certain creators and thoroughly review Twitter accounts before following. I’m sure I lost a few followers by blind supporting and being honest about my sadness/anxiety on Twitter. I’m sure liking some posts/threads “going in on” or “dragging” another person on Twitter caused me to lose followers and/or be blocked by someone on Twitter.
I know for a fact that I have made many mistakes in this space when I was new/adjusting. I can only learn from it and vow to do better and be better.
So to anyone reading this post who may have been affected by my blind support or ignorance on the bigger picture… I apologize.
When you know better… you do better
One day at a time
























